Self-love looks different for everybody as we’re all on our own unique paths of discovery, whether that’s about ourselves or how the universe works or finding our way back to the source of it all. At the end of the day it all starts and ends with self, and loving oneself is a key to moving forward in the most positive way possible. There are many forms of self-love but here are a few that are personal to me.
Sitting in stillness is a form of self-love. As much as I like to do it in nature I do more of it in bed first thing in the morning these days with my wrist taking me out of the yoga and outdoor exercise regime. We live in a world right now that’s filled with so much noise, especially today’s day and age with so much chaos necessary for the change that’s happening. And especially for those awake and aware of the grand scheme of it all. Stillness in the present moments is imperative and is definitely something that takes practice.
Quieting the mind is hard to do but when you don’t really know what the future holds there shouldn’t be much to think about, which goes against everything we’ve been taught from the get go. I try to spend time every morning listening to whatever I’m feeling in an attempt to slow the thoughts that want to run ramped the second I open my eyeballs. A quiet mind does wonders for the nervous system but it’s easier said than done. I’m not a fan of meditation but it is something I’m trying to make more time for.
Laughing at myself is another form of self-love, it’s important to be able to make light of situations. We tend to get stuck in taking everything so seriously when we need to simply lighten up. Yesterday is a great example and not something I wanted to share really but Spirit keeps nudging me to spill my guts so here we go. I best practice what I preach when it comes to transparency, right? It was a split second course correction that had me like dammit, I knew it yet almost blew it lol.
There was five bucks on the floor at the skate center yesterday so naturally I swooped down and picked it up and in that split second I almost thought about keeping it when I am well aware of what’s right and wrong, especially since I’m now here to always do the right thing. But in the next split second there was a lady right behind me who said she was about to pick it up too so she could turn it in. It was hearing those words that snapped me out of whatever I was thinking and into oh yeah, I have to turn this in because it’s not mine.
I had to laugh at myself because in that split second that looked more like three the little metaphoric devil that used to sit on my shoulder tried to make an appearance but thankfully there was an angel (in human form) who was right there to course correct me to make sure I did the right thing. I know better but in that moment I almost slipped back into an old way of thinking that I’m well aware no longer serves me. It’s that scarcity mindset that keeps trying to hang on when I know all too well I have everything I need when I need it.
The point is I could’ve easily beat myself up and I almost did with another old pattern but instead turned it around and had to laugh at myself instead because it was actually pretty funny. I said dammit a few times and for a few reasons while laughing and skating but was finally blown away at the fact that that lady made sure I did the right thing instead. It was like synchronistic clockwork that happened in a matter of seconds, an instant course correction that blew my mind and had me busting up.
I’m still a work in progress, in fact my master status isn’t even official until my next incarnation so lighten up I tell myself, these tests are set in place for a reason. We are all works in progress on our own unique individual journeys and I can get lost in the amazement of how we are all connected and how we are all here to help one another on so many different levels. Most of us aren’t even aware of the intricate contracts and scenarios that are already set in place before we even arrive.
Accepting me for me is a huge act of self-love and is probably the most important, we tend to be our own worst critics and unnecessarily judge ourselves without even realizing it. This runs parallel with diet and exercise and is what I’m currently working through today. I feel like I’m even breaking a generational curse of my own as my mother had a lot of self-image issues, which is crazy because she was gorgeous, but she didn’t always think so.
Growing up in Orange County can have a girl feeling like she needs to look a certain way in order to be accepted and lovable, all of which are untrue because we are all again unique in our own ways. I’m perfect just the way I am, haha and actually weigh exactly what my drivers license says which is 150 pounds. But for some reason, I’ve been thinking I need to weigh less and this spout of isolation and reflection has me realizing I’m perfect just the way I am.
I’m pretty sure it’s part of the reason my wrist is healing, I needed this time out not only to put that weight back on to remind me not only was I once again losing it the wrong way but to finally recognize I don’t even need to lose weight in the first pace. I’m telling ya, it’s an OC thing which is probably more of an internalized pressure of what society deems necessary to fit in. I’m learning to be over it though.
Let’s be real at the same time, I’m single and want to look good, which is normal but I’m learning to go about it in a healthier way. And at the end of the day love isn’t random anyway, it’s chosen, so my forever is gonna love everything about me no matter what which is why I need to quiet the inner critic and simply live a healthy lifestyle which will in turn have me exactly where I need to be when it comes how how I look, which is exactly where I’m at, which is perfect.
I’ve already come leaps and bounds with the self-love by quitting smoking and not drinking, or any substance abuse for that matter. I’m happy to report that food is (becoming) no longer an issue either. It was tough there in the beginning but my whole isolation while healing my wrist (with it’s dual purposes) is proving to be exponentially helpful. It was funny in the beginning though, it’s tough to eat less when all you want to do is eat more because you’re bored or tackling a last addiction.
I’m reprogramming my brain because it used to think I needed all this food to be happy but it’s actually just a temporary fix to a problem that’s mind over matter, which is another easier said than done. It’s taken time but I’m finally getting there and now food isn’t so necessary to me anymore, to feel good anyway. The first couple weeks with fasting now has me laughing looking back. I would fast until 6pm but then when it came time to eat my one meal I’d eat like it was my last supper or like I just got out of jail. And yes, I can speak from experience with that last one because I’ve been to jail a few times.
It’s taken a lot of adjustments and it too is still a work in progress but it’s progress nonetheless and that’s what our personal journey’s are all about. I’m looking forward to getting back to a regular routine where I’ll be able to put all this hard work together with diet and exercise alongside my mindframe. The way my wrist has been healing thus far (like molasses) I should be good in another few weeks. Lessons learned though, all what, four of em’? I will wear wrist guards when skating outdoors too now.
For me tarot and oracle cards are another tool in which I particularly enjoy as they are a great way to learn how the universe works and more importantly how to get to know thyself. I pulled some cards yesterday from my new angelic vibration deck and asked my team to show me my current energy and what it is I should be thinking about and these are the ones that popped out…
PERSISTENCE…be patient, things are already changing. Do not underestimate yourself, there are enormous powers within you. Take note of the subtle hints Spirit sends your way-they point you in the right direction. The angels have so much patience with you. Copy them!
INNER BEAUTY…you are beautiful and grateful. Turn your gaze away from external appearances and toward your true inner beauty. For the angels there is no external beauty. They look directly into your heart and discover your true beauty.
HUMILITY…what the planet is in desperate need of is peacemakers, healers, innovators, storytellers, and lovers of all kinds. Humbly put yourself into service. It’s easier to be successful than speak openly about humility. Humility is a gift, a renunciation of selfishness, which is why you’re chosen for luminous deeds.
I also have a tarot app on my phone and something made me open it up and pick a card whilst finishing this article about my self-love. I received the of the King of Wands which isn’t just fire (Aries, Leo, Sag energy) but also peculiarly similar to everything I just wrote about, not to mention what I feel like I’m all about. So yay, there’s that.
Laying in bed with fresh sheets on a chilly morning doing what I enjoy which is writing about my experiences in order to help humanity is another form of self-love. Nothing compares to flowing inspiration. So much gratitude in this moment and every waking hour. Super grateful, always thankful.
Love and Light
I asked for two more cards after publishing this and right before I head to work. I can’t make this stuff up, thank you Spirit for seeing me, hearing me, helping me and most importantly…thank you for loving me.
Namaste and have a bitchen day!