From what I understand the true essence of love is acceptance. Lack of acceptance, for example of oneself, creates suffering and the way to relieve or diminish that pain and suffering is understanding love in the first place, the pure state of it anyway. We start by first asking what is love not? Love is not fear, love is not pain. Love is not judgement and love is not expectation. Love gets distorted through judgement and expectation.
For example, the second you expect a partner to act or do things a certain way, that’s expectation and that’s what love is not. According to Darius J. Wright in order to be in the highest form of creation, the spark of creation itself is by releasing judgement and expectation. When you expect things to be done a certain way you’re actually expressing control. Look at how much control is happening in the world today, in my opinion it’s all a reflection of just how much it isn’t love.
He went on to say love is the acceptance of all things understanding it’s not even a word but rather a feeling, and control will dissolve when you understand what love truly is. Who is Darius J. Wright to say all this? He’s an expert in out of body experiences who travels the unseen realms. His mission is to awaken consciousness to help us recognize our eternal souls and remember who we are and where we come from.
After listening to his interview I couldn’t help but feel like everybody I’m surrounded by on a daily whether at church, work or otherwise, so many people (in my opinion because I’m not a licensed doctor) are narcissistic, or little energy vampires. Or perhaps I should say those experiencing a lack of true love. By and large I experience certain behaviors more often than not, and by experiencing these certain types of people for years now it has allowed me the ability to not only figure it out but see it a mile away. And at the very least it’s showing me how not to be.
I also think the fact that I can see through these facades, I can see true colors before they’re even displayed. I’m able to pick up on subtle energies that most don’t and I feel like I see some of the reasoning behind it now. It’s not about helping me with my self-worth which is what the first couple years of my journey was all about. Now it’s much more than that. I’m learning to see these people through a lens with no judgement and no expectation. I’m learning the true value of unconditional love.
Now I’m not just meeting people where they’re at, I’m meeting them where they’re at with no judgment and no expectation and loving them regardless because I understand we’re all here to experience in order to evolve our souls. I accept them for who they are without trying to change them in any way. I don’t have to like their behavior but I also don’t have to let it bother me because it’s not my lesson to be learned (anymore) and I can now simply just let it be.
One of these days I will be on to the next phase of my own journey where I will be experiencing and learning something new on my road to mastery but until then I feel like this is exactly why I’m surrounded by certain characteristics or personalities. Nothing really matters anyway, it’s all perception, it’s all about how we perceive things and everybody perceives things differently. Every lifetime is such a short amount of time compared to eternity and is also why we shouldn’t take things personal.
Back to what I said in the beginning and how lack of acceptance of oneself creates pain and suffering. I’ve mentioned before that my wrist happened for a couple reasons and I can’t help but feel like part of it was to teach me to love and accept myself unconditionally. With my wrist taking me out for a season I’ve put back on the weight I’d dropped from skating everyday. It’s not even that much but I feel like the lesson here was not only to help me change my eating habits but also to accept myself with or without a few extra pounds.
I can drop that weight again, and I will, muscles don’t know how old you are and I just need to tone but the point is I love myself regardless. I came here to experience unconditional love and in order to do that I must also experience what love is not. Part of my journey is to experience the ultimate expressions of what love is at its highest form which is the best way to embody being the best version of me possible.
I accept who I am and what I am just like I accept those around me as I’m currently learning to do all that unconditionally. I have a personal saying when it comes to others. People are either a teacher, a mirror, friend or foe. You’re not going to get along with everybody, just like some dogs simply don’t like one another. In fact, chances are certain people will repel you and vice versa. I know I’m not for everybody. As loving and kind as I may be some people can’t handle it (or don’t like it) and that’s okay.
Some say that love is the essence of human existence, it’s the essence of life. On a fundamental level it’s what drives us as humans. Love is Truth and love is the answer, it’s what we should all be striving for. It’s not just a feeling or emotion but a life force that comes from the heart space that connects us with others, it’s an energy that underlies our true essence. Love has a language of its own and everyone deserves to love and be loved. We are all worthy no matter what so know that.
Happy Summer Soltice everybody!
Love and Light